Author: orazie

Blending families sounds simple in theory—love the kids, love the partner, and everyone lives in perfect harmony. But for many successful women stepping into relationships with kids involved, there’s an invisible tightrope to walk, where one wrong step might leave you wearing the dreaded “evil stepmother” label. And let’s be real: no one asked for… Continue reading Navigating Allegiances: The Challenge of Split Loyalties in Blended Families

Building a meaningful connection with your partner’s children is a delicate journey filled with ups and downs. When I first entered into the role of a “stepmother”, I believed that fulfilling their needs and desires would be the key to building a strong bond. Little did I know that this approach would teach me valuable… Continue reading Building a Relationship with My Husband’s Children

As stepparents, we often encounter situations that test our emotional resilience and highlight the complexities of our role. In this blog post, I explore a specific instance that left a lasting emotional impact on me as a stepmother. Through my experience of teaching a life lesson to my husband’s daughter, we’ll delve into the unforeseen… Continue reading The Emotional Toll of Being a Stepmother: Lessons Learned and Unforeseen Challenges

When I first embarked on the journey of marrying a man with minor children in the home, I had grand expectations of what my role as a stepmother would be. I envisioned planning unforgettable family vacations, assisting with homework, organizing epic birthday parties, and even playing a role in discipline. However, the reality I faced… Continue reading The Truth Behind My Expectations vs. Reality: Marrying into a Blended Family

As the wife of a man that has minor children that live with us full-time,  I’ve learned that navigating blended families can sometimes be challenging, especially during significant events like prom season. Recently, my husband and I faced a situation that left me feeling like an afterthought in the prom day plans, and it brought… Continue reading Stepmom Chronicles: Remembering Your Place During Prom Season

Welcome to The Making of the Evil Stepmother! My name is Orazie Cook and I’m a stepmother who is passionate about sharing my experiences and insights with others who are navigating the complexities of blended families.

Family dynamics can be a complicated and messy topic, and my family is no exception. My parents got married while they were still in college, and while it may have seemed like they had it all together from the outside, behind closed doors, things were far from perfect.

As a stepmother, I’ve noticed a pervasive stereotype that society tends to attach to the role. We’ve all seen the movies and TV shows where the stepmother is the evil villain who hates her stepchildren and is out to destroy the family.